Dear Mom –
Watching you struggle to raise 3 kids on your own motivated me to be the person I am today. No, you didn’t struggle with raising them; you struggled with actually being there. One of us was sent away to live with another family at 12 years old; one of us moved away with our dad at 14; and then there’s me. I was all but forced to shack up with my boyfriend at the ripe old age of 16. I’m sure it was difficult for you, dealing with all that responsibility.
Witnessing your lack of patience and your overall selfishness struck a chord in me, made me see what I didn’t want to be. And while I have my days, I can happily say that my kids know I love them and they are not fearful of mood swings (This open to negotiation, but the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree now does it?). They are content, loved, and will never be shunned for any reason at any age.
I often wonder about the thought processes you had when you made your life’s decisions. You always said being a parent was the most important and most rewarding job you had… I wonder what kind of standards you set for your reward system?
Anyway, it’s a shame you’re not around to see what I’ve accomplished and what my children are doing with their young lives. I’m sure you’d be proud, if you could stand to be around us for more than a few minutes.